A seldom considered aspect of spreading gossip is that you laden the listener with at least two life-long burdens they neither anticipated nor requested. The first burden is knowledge. After Adam and Eve had eaten the apple, they became aware of an evil of which they had no prior knowledge. The second burden was having to bear that knowledge for the rest of their lives. Being exposed to gossip is a similar experience. You are now aware of an evil of which you had no prior knowledge. And that brings with it a question of what and how to deal with it.
I believe the first and best approach to dealing with gossip is to nip it in the bud! Stop it before it gets started! If you are not so fortunate, and you’ve already been exposed, there are a couple other options available. I like the old Jewish proverb “If you did not see it with your own eyes, do not witness to it with your mouth.”
Another has to do with a “need-to-know” basis. Usually in a drama of military or political intrigue, you will hear the term used “need-to-know,” which explains why someone was left out of the loop. Ask yourself before you share information about someone else, “Am I required to share this information because this person needs to know?” Intentionally leaving others “out of the loop” may prove you to be a more gracious benefactor than playing the part of the paparazzi.
May the rest of your life be the best of your life and as always…
Have A Great Day! (it is your choice).