The Buck Stops Where?

A young man who had strong homosexual tendencies became a Christian  thinking that in so doing, his homosexual tendencies would disappear.  Over time it became apparent, this was not the case for him.  My intent going forward is not to engage in any of the associative arguments tied to homosexuality and Christianity. I want to eyeball just one aspect — that the expected  change he sought did not come.

Recently, I watched a Dr. Mehmet Oz program and observed a woman well over 400 pounds lamenting the fact that she is obese and yet daily consumes amounts that would qualify for a food eating contest.  I have a friend that can never state an embellished-free fact of any sort.  Much of the time the information shared comes unbidden and is unnecessary (translated — she’s a gossip).  She is aware of her propensities and states regrettably that she can not “shake the habit.”

There is a question that has been stewing in my mind as of late — really for some time.  If change is to come who is responsible for that change?  I knew of a person who said they had joined a 12-step program for those having out of control sexual appetites.  That got me to thinking of multiple other 12-step programs (i.e. alcoholics anonymous, narcotics anonymous, over-eaters anonymous and so on).  The first few steps speak of admitting you are out of control and then turning your life over to a higher power.

Here,  for me, is where the rubber meets the road and where the buck stops.  The 12 steps emphasize that one is bereft of will power and unable to make a concerted demonstrable change in his or her life.  Thus implying that only God or a higher power–as they understand him– can (1) make that change or (2) enable one to make the change.

On point (1)  as it relates to free will, I believe it is sacrosanct and God will never make some one do what they don’t want to do.  On enabling, point (2) it suggest that there is a cooperative desire coupled with empowerment that brings about a change in behavior.  I contend that after the age of reason , and unless one had the equivalent to a lobotomy, empowerment to do or not do a thing was always a part of our nature.

Empowerment just didn’t pop up one day after much prayer, while doing battle with some negative aspect of our experience.  In short, we do pretty much what we want to do.  There is always a “why” associated with what ever we do, and that “why” falls into one of two categories: either an avoidance of pain or an experience of pleasure.  Until a more effective “why” displaces a current “why”, we will continue to do what we do and experience the consequences of it.

May the rest of your life be the best of your life and by all means,

Have A Great Day!


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9 Responses to The Buck Stops Where?

  1. Samuel Hampton says:

    This post is one to make a person think. The change must begin by renewing the mind! God has given us the tools. We must use the Word (tools) to make the change!

  2. Human Factor says:

    Hello Morris. Interesting article. Just a thought . . . whether one believes in secular or religious views, humans are born with the right of choice. Whether societies allow those choices is another matter and usually becomes a collective battle between the repressed and the closed-minded. However, those dealing with an addictive or compulsive lifestyle face the individual choice of breaking the cycle or being consumed by it. Making the right choices is often hard on the human body, but the soul or will-to-survive grows by leaps and bounds having met the challenge and triumphed. Nothing could be sweeter.

    • nobusysignal says:

      Thanks for your comment. You’re absolutely correct. It is the soul that triumphs when we choose to make the right choices, despite the physical cost!

  3. KalleyC says:

    Great post. I do believe that in the end, it is really up to us to make changes in our lives. God can help you, but God helps those who helps themselves as well. In the end, the control has to be ours, and the decision has to be ours. At the end of the day, we have to be accountable for our own actions, and accept the consequences of those actions.

  4. Bobby Clubbs says:

    What a great, thought-provoking post. Life is really one long series of choices, isn’t it? If only we could consider the consequences of each choice before we make it, we’d be in better shapes.

    Also, thanks for the follow on Twitter.

  5. Lisa says:

    Thought-provoking post. I especially like the last 2 sentences–we choose to do what we want.

  6. oldereyes says:

    There’s a Middle Eastern saying: “Trust God and tie your camel to a tree.” It’s usually something I bring up when they say Let Go and Let God as if that relieves them of having to do anything. Action is always required for change to happen.

  7. Your new friendly neighbors says:

    Great post! interesting relation on homosexuality.

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