A young man who had strong homosexual tendencies became a Christian thinking that in so doing, his homosexual tendencies would disappear. Over time it became apparent, this was not the case for him. My intent going forward is not to engage in any of the associative arguments tied to homosexuality and Christianity. I want to eyeball just one aspect — that the expected change he sought did not come.
Recently, I watched a Dr. Mehmet Oz program and observed a woman well over 400 pounds lamenting the fact that she is obese and yet daily consumes amounts that would qualify for a food eating contest. I have a friend that can never state an embellished-free fact of any sort. Much of the time the information shared comes unbidden and is unnecessary (translated — she’s a gossip). She is aware of her propensities and states regrettably that she can not “shake the habit.”
There is a question that has been stewing in my mind as of late — really for some time. If change is to come who is responsible for that change? I knew of a person who said they had joined a 12-step program for those having out of control sexual appetites. That got me to thinking of multiple other 12-step programs (i.e. alcoholics anonymous, narcotics anonymous, over-eaters anonymous and so on). The first few steps speak of admitting you are out of control and then turning your life over to a higher power.
Here, for me, is where the rubber meets the road and where the buck stops. The 12 steps emphasize that one is bereft of will power and unable to make a concerted demonstrable change in his or her life. Thus implying that only God or a higher power–as they understand him– can (1) make that change or (2) enable one to make the change.
On point (1) as it relates to free will, I believe it is sacrosanct and God will never make some one do what they don’t want to do. On enabling, point (2) it suggest that there is a cooperative desire coupled with empowerment that brings about a change in behavior. I contend that after the age of reason , and unless one had the equivalent to a lobotomy, empowerment to do or not do a thing was always a part of our nature.
Empowerment just didn’t pop up one day after much prayer, while doing battle with some negative aspect of our experience. In short, we do pretty much what we want to do. There is always a “why” associated with what ever we do, and that “why” falls into one of two categories: either an avoidance of pain or an experience of pleasure. Until a more effective “why” displaces a current “why”, we will continue to do what we do and experience the consequences of it.
May the rest of your life be the best of your life and by all means,
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