Teddy Pendergrass, (March 26, 1950-Jan 13,2010) was the former lead singer of Harold Melvin & the Blue Notes. One of his greatest songs (in my opinion) was entitled “When Somebody Loves You Back”. The song was simply moving as love songs go, the melody, the upbeat tempo of the music and his wonderful baritone voice all came together creating an exquisite atmosphere and moment for romance. I would go so far as to say the only reason a person did not like that song was because they were lying some where six feet under with the dirt piled on so high they could not hear him sing it.
The other day I was listening to the song and I thought of my wife. After a moment of reflection I realized there could be a problem with the premise of the song. “Said not 70/30, not 60-40 talking about a 50/50 love.” I believe I know what he means to say — something akin to viewing a person as a priority in your life, while you are only a mere option in theirs. But in truth, If I were to approach my marriage as though it were a 50/50 proposition the chances for mutual fulfillment and it’s success would be about as good as a one-tooth man in a corn cob eating contest.
It seems to me that a marriage based on a 50/50 foundation will not long survive. I have in the past adopted a 50 percent mentality. I’ll give you my 50 percent…that’s cool…the other 50 percent left is mine to do with as I please (think “have cake and eat it too” or better yet, think cake and someone else’s ice cream). As long as I provide my 50 percent what’s the beef? I’m no expert on the subject of marriage, far from it ( those that know me know that’s true). However, I’ve seen and experienced enough to know that there will be times when 50/50 is not enough. It won’t do. You’re gonna need 60/40 or 70/30 to see this thing through.
So what’s your take on this? In your opinion am I on base here or not? You know I can’t end without saying…
Have A Great Day!
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