I had some trying moments yesterday involving some one quite dear to me. I spoke rather harshly to this person and later, after thinking about it and particularly the part I played in it, I knew I needed to apologize. One thing I’ve learned about the world of apologies is that just because you offer one doesn’t mean it will be readily accepted and all is hunky-dory. Ill-spoken words hurt. They cut deeply and can (do) linger. Thus, the imperative to speak thoughtfully, sparingly and never to be reactionary.
Even though my heart felt apology was extended, it was understandably not readily accepted and quite frankly, rejected. The feelings were still too raw to the verbal touch and no amount of remorseful suave from me could remedy the moment. I clearly understood the situation and what I was facing was deserved…I’ve been on the receiving end of verbal barbs and I know how they hurt. Sometimes apologies ( even though well meant) can be ill timed, It’s kinda like dropping a Migraine in the middle of a headache– no good can be achieved at that moment and it is better to back off and let time do it’s thing.
One thing about offenses, even though they may require time to heal they must be dealt with and never left unresolved because an unresolved offense doesn’t just go away. Figuratively speaking,they become like birds that fly up into the mental rafters and perch there. They occupy time and space, they roost and make nests and leave toxic droppings. Left unresolved, it will look like something straight out of Alfred Hitchcock.
The word picture stated above should keenly illustrate the self inflicted damage incurred when we fail to deal with perceived offenses and especially when left to accumulate. I am actually injuring myself when I hold onto offenses and won’t forgive and let go. I can blame no one else for my state of mind. As some one once said “Every tub gotta set on it’s own bottom.”
I think often on the words of Dr. Joseph Murphy PhD. “The world I live in is determined largely by what goes in my mind.”
Thanks again for sharing some of your time with my time, and as always…
Have A Great Day!